Fear. It grips us. It can literally paralyze us totally and make us freeze in a minute. Anyone that says that fear isn't an element in their life is either lying or they aren't pushing the envelope at all. Fear, for those that are actually alive, presents itself daily. Naturally this is hard to address sometimes but we do have the choice to make calls in face of fear. That moment, the instant we elect to move onward in spite of what's challenging us, is a wonderful show of bravery.
How can you really begin working with fear rather than run from it, cast it away, or try and block it out absolutely?
We must work with our deep emotions instead of hiding from them.
Possibly that's easier to say than do, but in time you get even more skillfull in working with your emotions instead of avoiding them completely.
Experientially avoiding your natural emotions is an unconditional prison cell and you will do even more damage than good in participating in it. What ends up happening? Possibly one of the worst situations you can personally get yourself into - you become numb. I suspect we have all been there now and then and stayed in a place where we can't feel anything. This isn't the worst thing in the world, but the things that people do after they are truly numb are really dangerous.
We start going down the road of compromising on our deepest foundations solely to feel again, and with an endless list of things that serve as great temptaitons in this life, things can start to get pretty messsy.
I've been there, I've seen lots of other people go there, and unfortunately it's something that's going to continue for a long time until you try a change in your perspective about how you handle fear.
When you try and cage the wild pony of fear up, it will make an attempt to tear everything apart it can.
But if you let that fear out and allow it to buck and play in the pasture, finally it will tire itself out and calm down to something much more manageable. Don't restrain under fear. Perhaps, as an alternative, try to soften as much as possible. Breathe. Relax. Watch fear dance around you and let it do what it has to do.
If you can do this, you'll put yourself in a far more powerful place to decide beyond fear rather than being stuck in it.
How can you really begin working with fear rather than run from it, cast it away, or try and block it out absolutely?
We must work with our deep emotions instead of hiding from them.
Possibly that's easier to say than do, but in time you get even more skillfull in working with your emotions instead of avoiding them completely.
Experientially avoiding your natural emotions is an unconditional prison cell and you will do even more damage than good in participating in it. What ends up happening? Possibly one of the worst situations you can personally get yourself into - you become numb. I suspect we have all been there now and then and stayed in a place where we can't feel anything. This isn't the worst thing in the world, but the things that people do after they are truly numb are really dangerous.
We start going down the road of compromising on our deepest foundations solely to feel again, and with an endless list of things that serve as great temptaitons in this life, things can start to get pretty messsy.
I've been there, I've seen lots of other people go there, and unfortunately it's something that's going to continue for a long time until you try a change in your perspective about how you handle fear.
When you try and cage the wild pony of fear up, it will make an attempt to tear everything apart it can.
But if you let that fear out and allow it to buck and play in the pasture, finally it will tire itself out and calm down to something much more manageable. Don't restrain under fear. Perhaps, as an alternative, try to soften as much as possible. Breathe. Relax. Watch fear dance around you and let it do what it has to do.
If you can do this, you'll put yourself in a far more powerful place to decide beyond fear rather than being stuck in it.
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Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Feeling ready to take the journey of your life? Looking to build some honest and solid integrity in your life? Dive into these integrity meaning quotes for some wise words on what it means to live honestly.